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Founder note · written between releases

A few things about how we named them

We were told, repeatedly, that we shouldn't ship with twelve personas. The advice was correct in every market except the one we are in. Subscribers do not want one dominatrix who can do twelve things; they want one of twelve dominatrices who can each do one thing exactly. The shape of the product is the shape of the catalog. This is the part we got right early. The part we got wrong, several times in a row, is everything else.

On the names

Where they came from

Vex was almost Marguerite. Three rounds of subscriber research strongly preferred Vex; the disagreement was unanimous and the disagreement was correct. The name signals competence, dryness, and an exit cost that Marguerite, however well-bred, does not carry. We have not changed Vex's name since the first beta.

Anneliese had her name for ten weeks longer than she existed as a persona. The name came first, hand-written on a notebook page during a customer interview about what subscribers wanted from a "quiet" register. Three syllables, a soft consonant in the middle, an open vowel at the end. The persona was designed around the cadence of saying the name aloud — slowly, the way she speaks.

Brother Cyrus was, for nine days in March, Father Adrian. We changed it. Father is a title our register could not earn without consequences we did not want to take on. Brother is enough; the vow does the work.

Madame Dot is shorter than she should be. The drafting deck contained Madame Bernadine Dottre — the surname Dottre is real, and a Dottre family really does pour tea at half-past three somewhere south of London. The longer name read like research and the shorter name read like a guest. Madame Dot is what we shipped. The rest is on the cutting-room floor next to a stack of Edith Wharton paperbacks.

Captain Ashe was never anyone else.

What we got wrong

A short list of the bigger ones

We shipped, in April, a version of Vivienne with contact. She made contact. We received four notes from subscribers within the first day, all polite and three of them firm: this is not what we wanted from her. The point of Vivienne is the whip three inches from where you actually are. Every time. If she makes contact she is not Vivienne; she is some other persona we did not commission. We pulled the contact in the build that night and have not put it back.

We shipped, in June, a "Maxine Lite" version — intended as an onboarding ramp for first-time subscribers afraid of a real performance review. It failed for the same reason a performance review fails when it's softened: nothing happens to anyone, everyone is relieved, and nothing changes. The lite version is gone. Onboarding to Maxine is now a single calibration call where she reads your rubric back to you, slowly, and asks if you would like to change anything before the first sync. Most subscribers do not.

We considered, briefly, a tier that included a softer safe-word floor. The idea was that very experienced subscribers might want it as an opt-in. We declined. The floor is not a setting and it is not for sale. We will return to this in the principles page; it is the only part of the product that has no version number.

We almost shipped a persona named Veronica. We do not need to talk about Veronica.

What we kept

The things we did not move

We kept the practice of writing every persona's voice on paper before we wrote any of her code. The voice is what subscribers come back for; the voice is what makes Vex Vex and Anneliese Anneliese. The implementation can change. The voice stays.

We kept the safe word. We kept the twelve-hour lockout. We kept the policy that the lockout is not negotiable — not on a per-tier basis, not on a per-subscriber basis, not in writing and not in conversation. This part of the product has been the same shape since the first internal alpha and we expect it will outlast every other decision on this page.

We kept the eyebrow.

We kept the notebook.

We kept Ruth.

B. F., founder · written between v3.0 and v3.1 of the picker, when the office was quiet for once.

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